A personal post today ! I was in the middle of writing another post but got ended up having a good ol' rant, so decided to make this a post of its own !
I've learnt a lot this year and one of the biggest things I learned about was friendship, from good ones to bad ones and everything in between. A lot of my friendships have changed this year, I've become closer to some people and more distant with others. I've learned so much about myself through these friendships, it's been quite a tough year but it has shown me who makes an effort to stay in my life and who is ok with just meeting up at Christmas. This has been quite difficult for me to accept but also it's made me appreciate the people who do pick up the phone to call, who do schedule in a little skype call and who do send a text every now and then hoping everything is ok. I think because I've been hurt quite badly by some friendships, I've become very cautious about who I make friends with now. I've become very protective about my happiness. I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing, just something I've never had to do before. Going into 2015 I'll be sure to only make time for those who make time for me instead of wasting energy and time on those who don't deserve my time !
Here are three things I've learned about friendship in 2014 and want to remember in 2015.
Time : Making time for your friends is THE most important thing to maintaining a friendship. It doesn't matter whether it's a big long two hour dinner date, a quick 15 minute skype call or even a simple text to remind them you haven't forgotten them.
Excuses : When you live far away from a friend it's incredibly easy to make excuses. I'm guilty of it myself. The biggest excuse is 'I'm busy'. I despise this excuse. I think it's such a cop out because EVERYONE'S BUSY. Are you really so busy that you can't send a short text every once in a while. It's all about making time and getting your priorities straight. Now I do understand all to well, that sometimes people do get incredibly busy, but if you can't make time for your friends once a fortnight, then is it really worth it ?
Trust : Simple, but once the trust is gone, it's almost impossible to build it up again.
Has anybody else had friendships change this year ? Or learned anything from existing friendships ? I'd love to hear in the comments.
Erin x